Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life

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He has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majority of his time working with CEOs, leadership teams, and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture.

I know they've put out an updated version (this is just the version I have, so it is what I re-read) so I wonder if some of that has changed in their newer book, but be warned that it does feel like a 30 year old book sometimes. And in part four, you’ll practice boundary skills with yourself, including respecting other people’s boundaries and creating healthy limits and habits for yourself. Finding peace requires showing up—Nedra has written the blueprint on how to not only show up but also do the work.One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. So I guess I don't really struggle with the boundaries; I know that there are times you need to make time for yourself ("take care of yourself, so you can better take care of others" principle). Despite being written from a Christian perspective, I think this book would be useful for anyone who struggles with boundaries in his or her life (whether setting and maintaining them, feeling guilty about having them, or having trouble respecting the boundaries of others). Of course this comes from a Christian perspective but I would suggest that if that is not your thing then put that aspect of the book to the side because this book will still be incredibly beneficial to you with your family, friends, workplace, just about all aspects in your life.

Walk the fuck away from anyone who makes comments along the line of "You're boundaries are too rigid" or "You're a completely different person" or "You've changed too much.

I truly want to thank these authors for breaking this down for anyone and everyone who might take the time to read this book. Readers who follow Tawwab on social media and those who find setting boundaries especially difficult will appreciate the advice. what is so destructive about this particular sin is that it guarantees that we will not get what we want and keeps us perpetually insatiable and dissatisfied. She identifies six types of boundaries—physical, sexual, intellectual, emotional, material, and time—and dispenses tips on how to uphold personal limits…. One aspect that surprised me that isn't covered in the book as much as I think is necessary is how some people will react to your new boundaries via attacking your mental health.